The bridal bliss is over for one couple who have taken a decidedly bold new approach to the term, “no show fee”, addressing no-shows at their destination wedding with a stiff $240 bill.
Doug Simmons, 44 and Dedra McGee, (now Simmons) 43 have gone viral for the invoices they sent to guests who RSVP’d “yes” not once, not twice, not three times, but FOUR times and still did not actually attend their Jamaican wedding at the Royalton Negril Resort & Spa.
The no-shows, Doug told the New York Post, “made [him] feel some kind of way”.
“Four times we asked, ‘Are you available to come, can you make it?,’ and they kept saying ‘Yes.’ We had to pay in advance for Jamaica — this was a destination wedding,” the new husband said.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a wedding reception invoice before lol pic.twitter.com/ZAYfGITkxP
— philip lewis (@Phil_Lewis_) August 24, 2021
“No one told me or texted me, ‘Hey, we can’t make it.’ That’s all I was asking. If you tell me you can’t make it, I would be understanding — but to tell me nothing, but then let me pay for you and your plus ones? Four people became eight people. I took that personally,” Doug explained to the Post.
The original invoice was posted to Doug’s Facebook and gave a disclaimer at the bottom.
“This invoice is being sent to you because you confirmed seat(s) at the wedding reception during the Final Headcount. The amount above is the cost of your individual seats. Because you didn’t call or give us proper notice that you wouldn’t be in attendance, this amount is what you owe us for paying for your seat(s) in advance. You can pay via Zelle or PayPal. Please reach out to us and let us know which method of payment works for you. Thank you,” the bill read.
Wedding no-shows have been given one month from the August 18 invoice to pony up the $240.
The groom conceded to the Post that yes, he got a “little petty — but I am not some trifling person who is going to bill somebody.”
Simmons, a small business owner in Chicago, insisted that it’s not about the money, but the principle of the thing. He and Dedra were hurt and felt disrespected by the no-shows at their hard-earned dream wedding with more than 100 guests.
The invoices stirred up a lively debate on Twitter about weddiquette:
I’d send it back right away pic.twitter.com/LHa7EAC1ng
— Hedgehog no. 1 (@hedgehogkibble) August 24, 2021
Nah, this is petty. You create a budget for any event in advance. Either you can afford it if everyone shows up or not. No shows at a wedding might be personally hurtful but guests don’t owe you shit.
— Leona’s Love Quest 💕 (@LeonasLoveQuest) August 24, 2021
If you can’t afford it then don’t have it. Not excusing rude behavior but stop doing big things if yo don’t have big pockets.
— samirah68*Still Dope Podcast (@samirah401) August 24, 2021
It’s not about being able to afford it, it’s about the principle. I had this done to me and I think it’s highly disrespect to rsvp “yes”’to a wedding and just not show. So much time/effort/ money goes into a wedding. It’s unfair!
— BarbaraBeauté🇭🇹 (@barbarabeaute_) August 24, 2021
So, RSVP’ing you’re going during a pandemic, confirming you’re attending during final headcount, then not calling is OK because pandemic? You have no idea what the reason for the no-shows is. You’re blaming the couple for people not honoring their commitments?
— JLeon (@j_leon70) August 25, 2021
Everyone here knows that they don’t actually want the $240 right? If you are throwing a destination wedding at a resort on one of the most beautiful beaches on earth… it’s most certainly not about the money. This is a public F*ck Off + friendship over notice to a former friend
— Mr. BoogieCity (@Lord_aKan) August 25, 2021
I had no shows at my wedding it sucks but I don’t think I would have invoiced them. Also, some of these comments need to chill did some forget that there’s a pandemic outside. You normally rsvp months in advance. I think the situation nowadays is different.
— CaptainOatsTV 🇨🇦👾aka IndieDad (@CaptainOatsTV) August 24, 2021
Awfully tacky, but worse to RSVP and then not show up.
— Helen Kennedy (@HelenKennedy) August 24, 2021
An RSVP confirming attendance should be considered equivalent to confirming a doctor’s appointment. If you don’t show up, they charge you for the appointment anyway.
— Wendy Wills (@WendyWillsTX) August 24, 2021
I don’t imagine they expect to actually collect. I think they’re making a point, and it’s a valid one. It’s beyond rude to confirm your attendance at a wedding and not show up with no explanation.
— Let’s go Devils! (@nma814) August 24, 2021
Shouldn’t you budget for that? That would make sense! Life happens 🥴 that’s why I don’t want the “traditional” wedding. People expect way too much!
— ✨🏡Am I your Realtor⁉️ (@Freeway_Ash89) August 24, 2021
Idc what people say, I WISH we would’ve done this!! You know how much money we wasted on no-shows? It’s pure disrespect.
— ✨💋 Moderna Madame 💋✨ (@KayReneeESQ) August 24, 2021
Doug and Dedra don’t have a plan to enforce the payments and, as some Twitter users surmised, the invoice may have been sent as more of a message to AWOL guests than anything else.
And guests who did attend the wedding may think twice before skipping out on any future milestones of Doug and Dedra.
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