Hurt Valerie Bertinelli lashes out at troll who lectured her on weight: ‘Not f***ing helpful!’

Actress Valerie Bertinelli lashed out with an emotional, tearful, and angry response via video to a troll who lectured her online that she needed to lose weight, telling the insensitive person that she has no idea what she’s going through.

The heart-wrenching reaction from the Food Network host who is now 61 was shared on Instagram Thursday evening. Bertinelli admitted she made the “mistake” of reading comments posted concerning some of her recipes and tripped across the mean-spirited message while doing so.

“Because see, I don’t have a scale or I don’t have clothes that I’m trying to put on every day, and I don’t have mirrors so I don’t see what’s become of me,” she sarcastically stated, trying to contain her hurt and hold back the tears. “So I needed that help to let me know that I need to lose weight.”

“You’re not being helpful,” she remarked. “Because when you see somebody who has put some weight on, my first thought is, ‘That person is obviously going through some things.’”

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Like so many who battle with weight problems, Bertinelli stated that if she could “lose the weight and keep it off,” she would.

“But since I haven’t been successful with that my whole entire life — at 61, I’m still dealing with [it]. You think I’m not tired of it, lady?” she angrily asked the commenter. “Where’s the compassion? Not f**king helpful!”

In the caption to the post, Bertinelli asked, “Aren’t we tired of body shaming women yet?!”

She considered deleting the emotional outpouring on the video that initially appeared on her Instagram Story, but eventually decided to leave it up after a number of people offered support and praised her for her honesty.

“I was going to delete my stories because it’s a little embarrassing and scary to be so vulnerable. But then I realized it was hitting it a ‘good’ nerve with so many of you who were so sweet to dm and share your same vulnerability and struggles,” she wrote on Instagram. “We all could use a little more kindness and patience and grace, because we just never know what someone else is going through. So here it is. Not deleting. Owning it.”

Bertinelli came to fame on the 1970s sitcom “One Day at a Time.” She has never tried to hide her struggle with weight issues during her acting career and wrote an op-ed for “Today” last year where she admitted that she “used food to avoid sadness.”

“With the loss of my parents and dealing with other trials life throws our way, I’ve used food as a way not to feel the sadness or the stress,” she wrote. “But by eating something away, all it does is make me feel worse about myself. One of my personal mottos is ‘choose happy.’ But sometimes that choice is really challenging.”

The past year has been a rough one for the actress. She lost her ex-husband, rocker Eddie Van Halen, to throat cancer at the age of 65 in 2020. He had fought the disease for many years but finally succumbed to it. They were married for 26 years, from 1981 to 2007, before divorcing, and have a son named Wolfgang who is 30-years-old and also a musician.

Her son commented on her post, “you’re perfect the way you are, Ma. I love you. (also for no particular reason, what was that f**kers @ so I can harass them with memes?)”

Singer Demi Lovato showed her support, writing, “I love you. You said it yourself, you’re already enough AND whoever said that is hurting.. or not being shown enough compassion in their lives. I’m sorry you had to deal w this. Here for you always.”

Actress Haylie Duff also gave Bertinelli some heartfelt advice. “You are gorgeous and glorious! An inspiration to women everywhere block that hater,” she suggested.

“I’ve been on the receiving end of comments like these so many times. Hell, half my life! It f—ing hurts,” musician Michelle Branch wrote. “Thank you for being vulnerable and authentic and always leading with such heart.”

“And I have come to the conclusion that people who make these kind of mean comments that lack compassion are the ones that probably need compassion the most because they are broken and unhappy. And that is a horrible way to exist,” actress Melissa Peterman said. “I love you.”

“I feel like cursing, but I won’t…publicly,” fellow Food Network star Sunny Anderson stated. “Just know your insides count, everyone… your INSIDES.”

“There’s so much kindness out there,” Bertinelli said in a video Friday night on Instagram.

“I certainly do not feel so alone anymore. It’s the shame part that’s really hard to get rid of, that stupid emotion that is absolutely useless. But I just wanted to say thank you,” she commented. “Let’s have a really f**king great day today, you guys!”


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The actress found a lot of support on Twitter:


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