Actress Valerie Bertinelli took a Lebanese-Canadian writer and behavioral scientist to task on social media earlier this week after he relayed a story about his wife having an uncomfortable encounter with a restaurant server she suspected may have been a transgendered person.
The 61-year-old actress and star of several TV shows including the 1970s hit “One Day at a Time” and “Hot in Cleveland,” which debuted in 2010, took umbrage with Montreal-based Gad Saad, 57, who wrote, “The Parasitic Mind: How Infectious Diseases are Killing Common Sense,” after he noted online that his wife was “frozen in fear” for not knowing how to address the restaurant server and did not want to offend the person by using the wrong pronoun.
But Bertinelli, who was also married to late “Van Halen” rocker Eddie Van Halen, was not buying in.
She suggested a list of things Saad’s wife could have said that wouldn’t have been offensive – and accused the author of “looking for targets” so that he could later “cry victim.”
“‘Hi’ ‘Pardon me’ ‘How are you this morning?’ ‘May I please have’ ‘Thank you’ Language you can use without worrying about someone’s pronouns. But you don’t really care about that, do you? You’re just looking for targets, then you can cry victim when people come to their defense,” Bertinelli charged.
Later, Saad explained that his wife had considered saying “he’ll get the hang of it” to one of her server’s fellow workers regarding job performance, but she was not certain that “he’ll” was the correct pronoun. In addition, Saad said that “natural categorization mechanisms” are “built into our brains and languages” from a young age.
He also posted that he had received a lot of blowback for his comments.
“Wow the hate that I’ve received today from ‘tolerant’ folks because I shared a tweet about my wife being unsure how to address a barista (in terms of pronouns) has broken my all-time record for tweet impressions in a day!” Saad noted. “To some apparently, progressive hate is an elixir of life.”
That led Bertinelli to respond: “Clockwork,” an apparent reference to her previous prediction that he would try to play a “victim.”
— 😷💉 Valerie Bertinelli (@Wolfiesmom) October 27, 2021
Over the summer, Bertinelli was the subject herself of hateful trolling regarding her weight.
In a tearful, emotional response, Bertinelli, a Food Network host, said in a video posted to social media she made the mistake of reading through comments regarding some recipes posted on Instagram when she came across a particularly mean-spirited one.
“Because see, I don’t have a scale or I don’t have clothes that I’m trying to put on every day, and I don’t have mirrors so I don’t see what’s become of me,” she said sarcastically as she tried to hold back tears. “So I needed that help to let me know that I need to lose weight.
“You’re not being helpful,” she continued. “Because when you see somebody who has put some weight on, my first thought is, ‘That person is obviously going through some things.’”
- New ‘Let’s Go Brandon’ store opens in Massachusetts, with LGB swag all the rage for the holidays - December 6, 2021
- Stefanik presses NY Gov. Hochul to tidy up ‘criminal cesspool’ left behind by the Cuomo brothers - December 5, 2021
- One more jab: CDC’s Walenski confirms FDA working to streamline approval for omicron-variant vaccine - December 5, 2021