Over the years, I’ve read stories in books and magazines about men dying suddenly of a heart attack or a stroke or in a car accident after using harsh words in an argument with their children. I lost my father when I was a rebellious teenager, but we had time to talk and understand each other before he passed.
I can’t imagine how awful it would have been had he died after one of the many arguments we had before he got sick. I was lucky. I grew up enough just in time for us to appreciate each other before the end. Not everyone has that chance.
Since the day my son was born, I have never left the house or gone to sleep without telling him, “Daddy loves you, son,” and then kissing him. I don’t care if his friends are there and I embarrass him, or if I’m angry at him for leaving his stuff all over the house. I say it every time we part, and I will continue to do so for as long as he lives in my house.
I don’t know if that makes me a good father or not. The whole father-child relationship is so complex that I don’t think anyone really knows what makes a good father.
Since we’re all just regular schmucks stumbling through the whole experience, and we are bound to wound the ones we love sometimes, maybe making sure the people we love know how we feel is the most important thing we can do.
God does not tell us when our last day will be, so no matter how difficult it is, maybe parents and children should just try saying, “I love you,” to one another more often. Not when everything is great and it’s easy to say, but when you’re arguing and it’s hard to say.
Posted above is a video I’ve saved for years. It’s worth watching, not just on Father’s Day, but often.
Happy Fathers Day
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